Thursday, March 31, 2011


Yesterday I felt the baby move on the outside for the first time! Of course, the second Rob tried to feel it, baby would not cooperate.

I'm sick. Just a head cold, thankfully, but I am miserable all the same. I can't decide which is more annoying: when your throat is sore or when you can't "pop" your ears. I have thrown up bile two days in a row while brushing my teeth and I think I really need to check with my doctor about upping my indigestion medicine; I take the lowest dosage out of fear and I'm confident she will say it is OK to take the regular dose. I will endeavor to shower and get out of my pajamas for my week change picture tonight but no promises on showing off my new haircut in a cute manner. Ha!

Tuesday, March 29, 2011


You may recall I have been agonizing over my weight. I had read somewhere that my doctor should've told me how much I was "allowed" to gain during my first appointment. She never mentioned it and hasn't mentioned it in any follow-up appointments so I followed I would ask her during my impromptu visit with her.

I started by acknowledging I was not an ideal weight when I got pregnant. Her eyes got very large and she said, "You're not big at all! Who told you that?" I told her my previous doctor had discouraged me from pregnancy till I was done losing weight. I reminded her I have only gained 4 pounds in 21 weeks.

She reiterated several times that I am allowed to gain 20-25 pounds and she further stated that due to my slow gain, she was confident I would be leaving the hospital my original size! Wow! This entire time I was expecting her to tell me to gain no more than 15 pounds! It was scary to think I could only add 11 more and I was only half-way done. Now, obviously this is not a license to pig out but it did ease my concerns.

If I'm being candid, my old doctor really shamed me. Like, a lot. I was always insecure about having to see her because she always made me feel bad about myself. I knew I had to lose weight and I was in the process of it, I didn't need the additional negativity. This is not to say I don't expect my doctors to discuss my health issues. On the contrary, I respect that they need to address any concerns. It was the frequency and means by which she did so that made me feel like scum of the Earth.

I really, really hope my new insurance is accepted by my doctor. She makes me feel like a normal person, and I adore her for that!

Racing the Clock

I really think I need to change the name or the theme of this blog to "sexually and physically explicit pregnancy issues." The further along I get, the less guarded i am. I love reading other people's true life experiences so I am just going to bare all in hopes someone else can relate or feel comforted by all my TMI posts. I never intended for my "family" blog to be graphic but I'm just following where my instincts are leading.

As I have previously documented, sex during the 1st trimester was more or less non-existent, mainly due to spotting (and not having insurance to get it investigated) and just plain feeling "off." I never had morning sickness and was rarely tired, but I definitely did not feel like myself.

Now in the second trimester, I have recently been able to recall that sex is pleasurable. Accordingly, I want to have some of it. Last night, I noticed the baby felt squished. I was short of breath and it felt like there was no room for baby to move. I know that soon enough my baby will be entirely too big for the missionary position. Incidentally, this is "my" position if you catch my drift. I'm sure in the 3rd trimester I will have some obligatory sex for Rob's sake, but in the meantime, I feel like we need to have as much sex as possible before it is entirely too uncomfortable.

I have been reading a lot on post-partum sex so I can understand what the journey ahead of us will entail. Well, as much as someone else's experiences can help, anyway. I want to make sure I have realistic expectations, etc. By most accounts, things will be, at a minimum, different once baby is here. Returning to normalcy or establishing a new normalcy will take some time so I want to enjoy myself.

Monday, March 28, 2011

A TMI Post

I went to the Lady Bits Doctor today to see about a rash on my thigh. My insurance doesn't kick in for a few more days but I wanted to rule out an infection since I am pregnant. Mind you, I had no signs of a yeast infection, etc.

My regular doctor was booked so I was scheduled to see the midwife/nurse practitioner. So, there I am, knees to my ears, and the NP decides to break out the speculum. No big deal. better safe than sorry to rule something out, while pregnant, right? So, she remarks, "Well, you have discharge. It looks like textbook yeast infection." I'm like, of course I have discharge, you're digging in my vagina! But as for the odd discharge, I was skeptical as I had not noticed any before and I have had an infection prior so I know what to look for (not to mention I didn't have any other symptoms of a yeast infection.) But hey, she's the medical professional so I figure I'm just wrong.

Prior to my appointment, one of the nurses said they were going to test my urine in case I had a UTI. Again, I had no symptoms of a UTI but since I have never had one, I figured I'd just go with the program. Another case of "better safe than sorry."

So the exam wraps up super quick and I ask the NP about checking my platelets since I am on Heparin. She says she is going to run and look at my discharge under the microscope and be right back.

Instead, in walks my doctor, followed by the NP. The NP says I do not have a yeast infection (I knew it) but that my rash could be a sign of diabetes because sometimes rashes are a symptom of yeast infections(???) and if you get yeast infections during pregnancy it is a sign of diabetes. By now I am thoroughly confused.

She's already confirmed I do not have a yeast infection after claiming that visually it appeared I did. She is not prescribing anything for a yeast infection. My doctor is sitting there looking bewildered. The NP then says that the ketones in my urine could indicate diabetes. My doctor says, "Well, she hadn't eaten all day and had a soda immediately before her appointment. She has no other symptoms and I don't think she is a risk because she hasn't been gaining weight." The NP insists.

My doctor also told me I don't need to have my platelets checked because I will have only been on the Heparin for a short time. Once I got to the blood draw clinic, I look and see that the NP ordered my platelets checked! I don't mind double checking for safety but I trust my doctor. And frankly, since my insurance still hasn't kicked in, I wasn't too keen on spending the money for an additional blood test.

I think my doctor either adopted the "better safe than sorry" attitude or she didn't want to dilute my faith in the NP. Either way, I left the appointment feeling very confused. All this to say, I really hope I don't have diabetes! Have you guys ever had an appointment where you were the recipient of a lot of conflicting info?

Saturday, March 26, 2011

21 Weeks

So, this post is not timely but the photo is. This dress looks kind of like I'm wearing a tent but in the heat I appreciate its breeziness. And don't ask about the puffiness of my hair. It was close to midnight and it was HOT! Today I actually chopped all that hair off so my next picture I will be looking nice and cool!

How Far Along: 21 Weeks

Size of baby: Banana

Total Weight Gain/Loss: Man, i was doing so well! Then fat happened. I had only gained four pounds the first 5 month but since Monday alone I put on another 3. Time to get the eating under control!

Maternity Clothes: I only have one pair of maternity shorts so I have been wearing lots of pre-pregnancy dresses to beat the heat.

Gender: We are undecided on if we are going to announce the sex. We have so little between us that this feels like one thing we can have to ourselves. Of course, I am confident Rob has shared with a handful of people. He was too excited not to, lol!

Movement: Thankfully, the baby moves quite frequently, especially if I am hungry. It is still too faint for Rob to feel but he diligently puts his hand to my belly with great frequency in hopes of feeling something; it is very endearing!

Sleep: It's already hard to get comfortable and I know it is only going to get worse. I am sooo thankful for the ability to nap, even though I never allow myself to.

What I miss: Having less body hair (thanks, hormones and vitamins!) and being able to shave with ease.

Cravings: Fruit salad. There was something else but now I can't remember it. I can never remember anything these days-it's totally true what they say about "pregnancy brain!"

Symptoms: A growing belly.

Best Moment this week: Seeing a healthy baby!! Such a blessing in and of itself!

Friday, March 25, 2011


Everybody knows that pregnancy is notorious for giving you vivid dreams. In fact, this is one of the main reasons I suspected I was pregnant. Now, I have always remembered my dreams and I mostly dream in color, but this is insane. Nobody mentions the nightmares you get!!!

Every night I dream about something sad, catastrophic, etc. Last night, I dreamed someone killed Tom Colicchio! Why would someone do that? His wife just had a new baby this week, he has two other kids, he is an awesome guy! Senseless violence! The dream was very specific, too. He was alone in his apartment picking something up to bring to his wife in the hospital and someone shot him. Where does my subconscious come up with this stuff? Poor Tom!

I don't typically enjoy posts where people share their dreams but Tom Colicchio is America's Beloved. I won't bore you with my other bad dreams.

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Oh No He Di'int! Or, A VERY Crude Story

Rob and I called my FIL to update him on our anatomy scan. Here is how the conversation progressed:

FIL: Well, I really don't need to know about your cooch but I would like to know if you're having the kid through your vag or a c-section.

DH's eyes got real wide and he mouthed, "What did he say?" When I shook my head to confirm he'd heard right, my poor husband was mortified. I was honestly shocked into silence. I stammered some sort of response then quickly hung up.


Good Health

The anatomy scan revealed a (still) healthy baby. I'm very, very relieved.

The not-so-good news is that my placenta is lower than they prefer. It is not full-blown placenta previa but they will be redoing the entire ultrasound to monitor the placenta's location. If you're so inclined, I would appreciate some prayers for a continued healthy pregnancy, and for the placenta to correct itself.

Monday, March 21, 2011

Tomorrow's The BIG Day!

Tomorrow is our anatomy scan. If Rob gets his way, the baby will offer up a crotch-shot. As for me, I am filled with fear, the same way I am before every appointment. Learning the gender is merely a bonus to this important medical investigation of our baby's health.

So many horror stories I have heard are floating in my head. Feels like we have already been too blessed thus far. I don't know how I'm going to get any sleep tonight. My sincerest wish is that baby is healthy.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

A Weighty Issue

Since I started out pregnant well above my ideal weight, I have been very preoccupied with not gaining too much weight. According to my own research, a woman my size should look to gain approximately 15 pounds but not much more.

Now, my doctor has not mentioned my weight at all. As mortifying as it would be, I know she would just be doing her job. According to my home scale, I have gained about 4 pounds. It doesn't seem like a lot in comparison to what some women have shared they've gained by week 21, but our playing fields are not level.

With my anatomy scan on Tuesday I am becoming increasingly paranoid that my baby is starving or will measure small/behind. I'm trying to be rational about it all, but I could really kick myself for starting this journey as a full-fledged member of Team Fat Ass; it is only adding to my stress and paranoia (which it should if I take my baby's health seriously, don't get me wrong!)

Judging by the photographic evidence my gut is growing. A lot. But according to my mom I don't look pregnant, yet I also look like I've lost weight. How is this possible? Some other friends have remarked that I do look pregnant but maybe they're just trying to make me feel good?

Prior to getting pregnant my friend Rachel made a comment that has stuck with me for about 2 years. She is a mom of two and she said that your body does amazing things while pregnant, specifically, picking and choosing where it draws from and what it uses. She was gently comforting me over my concerns about just how much weight to lose before pregnancy without stressing my body by having to lose weight twice. I must admit this baby has kindly sucked up some of my back fat. Thank you, baby! I'm still in smaller pants, etc.

On my next visit I don't get to see my actual doctor, instead I will be visiting with their nurse practitioner. I am going to pick her brain a bit and then pick my doctor's brain next month. Do you have any suggestions for questions someone in my position should ask?

Saturday, March 19, 2011


I had my first nightmare about labor and delivery. It featured a slew of friends who will have nothing to do with my delivery, which is odd.

Interestingly, in the dream I was attempting to deliver vaginally.

If I'm being candid, the issue of vaginal delivery versus c-section has been on my mind a lot lately. If you know me at all, you know that the mere thought of a vaginal delivery gives me hives. No joke. My heart rate goes up, I sweat and get all-around flustered.

I know this is a polarizing issue for many women. Even women who have never given birth have strong opinions. I'm not trying to discount the first-timers but I will admit that I sometimes take the opinions of women who have already done it, more seriously.

The only strong opinion I have, more or less, is that I want my baby delivered safely. I will not feel like any less of a woman or as if I didn't get to have a "true" birthing experience if I don't deliver vaginally. I also acknowledge that the thought of major abdominal surgery sounds deplorable to some women, as though it should be avoided at all costs. I get it, I really do.

Part of me longs to share the intimacy of a vaginal birth with my husband. I am positive he would rise to the occasion as a great support to me. I know a vaginal delivery has tremendous benefits for babies. And I certainly know that women have been doing it since, well, ever. It all looks very beautiful and empowering in my head, but it doesn't feel like "me."

On our first doctor's visit, I expressed my intense trepidation over a vaginal delivery with my doctor. She shared with me that her first one was simply awful, and I felt good that she could relate to my fears. Further, she told me that so long as I acknowledged the risks involved, and so long as I promised I would not be birthing more than three children, she would allow me to forgo trying to vaginally deliver.

This was an immense relief to me! However, I am still not sold either way 100%. In my dream, I convincingly felt as though vaginal was the way to go. I even woke up feeling like it was feasible.

The good news is, I have plenty of time to contemplate my decision. The bad news is, my personality is as such that it isn't necessarily a good thing for me to marinate on something too long.

Lastly, there is this issue at play: I will be delivering at 38 weeks (no later!) due to my blood clotting disorder. That in itself is appalling to some but in comparison to the potential alternative (i.e. not getting to take a baby home at all) I am willing to bring baby home earlier than s/he might be ready. The best judge of when you are ready to give birth is your own body, and there's no way around that. My body might not willingly give my baby up at 38 weeks. It might be a fight. And to be honest, I am not interested in the Pitocin drip. Like, not even a little. Of course, I would do what I had to, but the fact is, the situation could very likely to turn to one in which I need a c-section. The way I see it, when major surgery is involved, I would like for it to be organized, planned and anticipated rather than an urgent and emergent situation. Basically, I'd like the c-section to be on my terms, and not because it is dire.

Obviously I have a lot to think about...

Friday, March 18, 2011

20 Weeks

This is a day late but much better than the complete lack of photo altogether for week 19. Man, it was HOT last night when I had Rob take this picture. I mean, really hot...and it's not even summer yet! 80 degrees at night is not going to work for me. Time to take advantage of having a good a/c system! Moving on...

How Far Along: 20 Weeks (More than 1/2 way done since this baby is being delivered at 38 weeks! Eeek!)

Size of baby: Mango.

Total Weight Gain/Loss: I lost almost an entire pound while travelling and have not gained it back so we are up a total of 4 pounds. People have been remarking to me like I look like I have lost weight. As evidenced by my photo, my stomach is growing so I'm not worried.

Maternity Clothes: I re-organized my closet and have found a wealth of non-maternity clothes that can be worn. So, not only do I get to feel good about being organized and clean, but I get to save money. There were clothes in there I forgot I had. Living out of boxes sucks but I really needed to put in the time and I am glad I did.

Gender: Next Tuesday is the BIG DAY. My friend Carrie and her husband have a tradition of picking two names they really love, and then waiting till they meet their baby to do the final selection. Rob and I love this idea. On the bright side, even though I wanted a surprise, this will help with the naming process. Rob will only half-heartedly discuss it till we know what is coming.

Movement: The baby wasn't very active AT ALL yesterday and had me worried but today seems to be back to normal. I have read that regular movement is not to be expected, and I am not skinny so until I can pick my doctor's brain about it, I am going to go with the notion that things are as they should be. I am amazing myself at the lack of panicking I have done this pregnancy. I always figured I'd be one of those women who calls hysterical at the slightest cramp, etc. but it has been the opposite. Even when I had spotting I didn't call. Maybe having no insurance has something to do with it, LOL.

Sleep: Not too shabby, actually.

What I miss: Nothing, really. It would've been fun to enjoy a green cocktail last night but it really wasn't a big deal.

Cravings: Chicken wings and cupcakes. I always thought women who would make statements like, "It's what the baby wants" were simply making excuses to indulge in their cravings, but I am eating crow. I literally ate chicken wings for dinner two nights in a row. I don't even like spicy foods but I have been pouring hot sauce onto different things, such as eggs. As for the cupcakes, well, I just can't help it. Fortunately/unfortunately, Rob is catering to my every whim in this department. We'll see how that one goes. At least chicken is semi-healthy.

Symptoms: My skin is looking somewhat decent and I bought a deep cleaning shampoo so for this week I am practically presentable. That said, it is too dang hot to style my hair so a ponytail it is! Gah! I hate wearing a ponytail because for me, they are NEVER stylish and always a cop-out.

Best Moment this week: Good health!

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Whoooooo, Doggy!

The heartburn? It is getting worse, thanks for asking. I think it might be time to up my dose of antacids. I could, ya know, change my diet but whatever. (If I could wink at you right now, I would.) It is actually happening before I even eat so I know food is not the only culprit.

In other news, my hair still persists in smelling like mildew! I used some of my girlfriend's Herbal Essences and it seemed to keep the smell at bay so I bought some to use at home. Do you guys have any recommendations for me on a good shampoo? I am presently trying to wash out the reamining color so I can go black to blonde so color-safe is not necessary. I used to use a mouistruzing/anti-frizz/deep conditioning for damaged hair product but pregnancy has turned me into a greaseball so that is probably not necessary, either. From my health and beauty travels to target today I'd say there no longer exists a generic shampoo just for washing so I will take your suggestions. My hair is very, very thick. And it is humid. And I don't like Pantene at all. Please and thank you!

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

A Letter

Dearest Heparin,

I should've known this whole blood thinner thing was too good to be true. I was so spoiled on the Lovenox-no burning, complications, no bruising. But Heparin, you are a cranky older sister.

I know you are tried-and-true, I know you save lives, I know! But you are a witch!

To quote my husband, it looks like "someone took a paintball gun to my gut!"

And yes, you sting. Don't you know that people don't like to be stung? It hurts!

And lastly, you are not aging well. Most newer medicines come with much more civilized methods of injection. Ever heard of a pre-filled syringe? Fighting your 70's era needle is tiring. The fear of a embolism caused by a rogue bubble has me hesitating to push the syringe.

My dear, God willing, our days are numbered. I appreciate what you mean to my health and that of my baby, but I will not miss you. I am thankful to have had you but will not miss you. The fact that you're chewing my platelets up only to spit them out doesn't bode well with me, either; I'm lethargic because of you!

Please don't consider me an ingrate. I am so grateful for all you're capable of...I just prefer my medicine to come from this century. See you again in June-I sure hope time doesn't fly!

In crankiness,


Monday, March 14, 2011

Eeeeeeew, Gross!

In keeping with the theme of "honesty in pregnancy" for this blog, I thought we would talk some more about pregnancy sex.

I finally had some of that terrific sex everybody raves about. Yay!

But when I went to the bathroom, there was some sort of tissue or mass. Well, there were two of them, actually. They were the size of dimes and they were pinkish in color.

I knew better than to worry or turn to Dr. Google so I just went about my business. But! It was gross and it was an unwelcome sight. On my pregnancy boards I have seen women say it is your mucus plug, which then regenerates itself. I have also heard countless times that intercourse can cause irritation, which in turn causes bleeding. Well, this wasn't red blood, this was party-pink. Naturally there was no pain (only pleasure, rawr!) Any experienced moms care to wager what happened?

I may or may not have told Rob he took my virginity a second time!

Blogging Fail and Miscellany

Well, I didn't take a picture for week 20! FAIL! I have a good reason, though: I was travelling and it just felt off to ask anyone other than Rob or my family to take my picture. Too bad, too, since I was rocking non-clownish hair for once. Ha! I thought about taking one mid-week, and I still might. Or not.

I saw a lot of friends this past week and it was really fun to gauge their reactions to my pregnancy belly. When I got off the plane, Rob remarked that I looked noticeably more pregnant. If at any time I had delusions of still fitting in my pre-pregnancy pants, those fleeting thoughts are gone. And, this might sound odd, but I am sort've excited to see my post-baby body. I am curious what it will look like. I haven't packed on the pounds the way I feared I would so I have a glimmer of hope. I'm down almost a pound from last week, and considering the way I indulged with my girlfriends, this is a small feat.

Flying was pretty uncomfortable. I'm no waif to start and the seats only get smaller. Baby felt like it didn't have much room to maneuver, despite not being very big. My hips were killing me the entire flight. On my first flight the turbulence was quite severe. Somewhere over Arizona the captain came over the loudspeaker and said, "I've spoken with air traffic control and they've confirmed this is the best altitude we can do." Uh.... On my return flight, I had the row to myself but couldn't quite get comfortable.

I'm pretty confident I can feel the baby at this point. I know most people claim it is just gas, but pregnancy hasn't made me gassy (yay!) and it doesn't feel like any sensation I've ever felt before. What do you guys think? Is 20 weeks to soon to feel movement?

I have another confession: I ate 2 cupcakes today. For shame, I know. The odd thing is, I am normally a HUGE sweets fan, but this pregnancy have not been into much dessert. I had a cupcake craving and I satisfied it.

Friday, March 4, 2011

18 Weeks

How Far Along: 18 Weeks

Size of baby: Sweet potato. I really love sweet potatoes so this is fitting.

Total Weight Gain/Loss: I am up 5 pounds. I have spent a lot of time out of the house this week which means I have actually been eating. I'm doomed now.

Maternity Clothes: Same issue as last week-which is that crop tops on pregnant bellies are not sexy, even for Kate Hudson.

Gender: We will know in a couple of weeks.

Movement: Sometimes it feels like someone is shifting their position in there but it is the lightest flutter so I can't truly confirm or deny.

Sleep: No rest for the wicked.

What I miss: Nothing. I'm blessed to be pregnant so I don't dare say anything negative.

Cravings: I wanted a soup and salad combo from Panera and I got it.

Symptoms: Bad acne, bad hair and a gut. <--This never changes.

Best Moment this week: Another healthy week.

Confession time: I joke a lot about how I didn't know I was pregnant for a long time, but if I am being honest there is a very serious reason why. This pregnancy has been marred by grief and agony over a family crisis. If I am being extra-honest, it has pretty much overshadowed most everything pregnancy-related. I am convinced God gave me an easy pregnancy because He knew I would crumble. I truly believe we're only given what we can handle, even if it feels like the depths of despair when we're in the trenches. Some days my baby is the only thing I have that feels positive so I am thankful for a brief daily respite. I am trying to document as much as I can so that I have not only a distraction, but a chronicle of joy. Happiness is circumstantial whereas joy is to be found in the heart.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

Baby Daddy

Today is our 3-year anniversary. Time flies! I am so proud to call Rob my husband; I am blessed more than I am able to accurately describe (pregnancy brain doesn't help in trying to think of creative words.) In a coupe of years I hope we can have a killer vow renewal. My baby is going to be so lucky to have such a phenomenal man for its father; I done good!